There's this really challenging art in leaving people who don't treat you well, respect you enough to reply to you, or don't act like you mean much to them. On one hand you need to be close with as many potential people as you can and you reach out trying to make new friends. On the other hand you have got this respect for yourself and pride in how you act. The middle ground is difficult to find on occasion. It is something that I fight with again and again. When do you hold your head up high and walk away from the relationship?
I hold myself to a high standard. A large amount of the time I find myself not wanting to do something but doing it anyhow because I know the other person really deserves that. Sometimes I know that is what I would want if the situation was switched around. But I feel a lot of the time these people I'm close with do not do that for me. I don't know if this is just my generation, but it has become increasingly popular for people to just not make a response to you, not take seconds out of their day to recognize effort, and just hide. I don't know what it is. I don't understand what makes people do this. Is it a lack of respect? Do you just not like me? Do you just not care?
As I'm going through life, things seem to become more intense as it seems. I give my heart out to people around me in a fashion that I have never been capable of before - and I love that I have started to develop that. But simultaneously I have experienced more angles that are just the grandest turnoffs I've ever come by. I try and find that balance between giving people honest chances, and deciding to walk away. It feels hard to let people go ...especially when there isn't any gigantic blowup of any sort.
It is hard to flip off making an attempt to bring people joy. Because that really is what it actually boils down to for me. I attempt to bring others as much joy as I am capable of throughout the course of the day. I attempt to make people smile. I attempt to give them a little leg up, some confidence, some spark to their day that may actually make it all that much better. I do not really expect them to do exactly same for me...but I do look for respect, and if it is not there, I do not make attempts to convince them...I just move on and end up leaving.
Finding the balance has been stupendously hard on my heart recently. But in all honesty, I know what I need to do. I need to walk away. I have to respect myself enough, the type of person I am now and not really settle for something less than I know what I merit. You must know what you are worth. If you really believe you are worth it, you will accept anything. Remember, people only treat you certain ways by what you accept from them.
I hold myself to a high standard. A large amount of the time I find myself not wanting to do something but doing it anyhow because I know the other person really deserves that. Sometimes I know that is what I would want if the situation was switched around. But I feel a lot of the time these people I'm close with do not do that for me. I don't know if this is just my generation, but it has become increasingly popular for people to just not make a response to you, not take seconds out of their day to recognize effort, and just hide. I don't know what it is. I don't understand what makes people do this. Is it a lack of respect? Do you just not like me? Do you just not care?
As I'm going through life, things seem to become more intense as it seems. I give my heart out to people around me in a fashion that I have never been capable of before - and I love that I have started to develop that. But simultaneously I have experienced more angles that are just the grandest turnoffs I've ever come by. I try and find that balance between giving people honest chances, and deciding to walk away. It feels hard to let people go ...especially when there isn't any gigantic blowup of any sort.
It is hard to flip off making an attempt to bring people joy. Because that really is what it actually boils down to for me. I attempt to bring others as much joy as I am capable of throughout the course of the day. I attempt to make people smile. I attempt to give them a little leg up, some confidence, some spark to their day that may actually make it all that much better. I do not really expect them to do exactly same for me...but I do look for respect, and if it is not there, I do not make attempts to convince them...I just move on and end up leaving.
Finding the balance has been stupendously hard on my heart recently. But in all honesty, I know what I need to do. I need to walk away. I have to respect myself enough, the type of person I am now and not really settle for something less than I know what I merit. You must know what you are worth. If you really believe you are worth it, you will accept anything. Remember, people only treat you certain ways by what you accept from them.
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Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move foward from your relationship? Try these life goes on quotes.
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