There are these moments during particular days where I have to be incredibly and openly honest with myself about what I'm going through and feeling. I know when it is preparing to come up because I get this wave of energy from the base of my neck down to my lumbar region and I feel my mood morphing and beginning to change. I used to be afraid of it...the sensation of water almost dripping down my back. But in time I have been taught the simple way to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth effervescent to the surface.
Often we go through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have fully recovered or have moved on, but in truth there are still pieces to the puzzle that have to be put together. Maybe Maybe it is one piece left, just maybe it's just this moment where you have to sit down and get quiet one last time, or perhaps it demands more of your attention.
There's an interesting balance between moving forward and taking the time, whatever the situation speaks for, and starting to appreciate what is occurring within. I believe much of the time when a person is hurt and other people see it they attempt to tell that person to bounce themselves up as fast as possible and forget the past. This information, while intended to be beneficial, isn't actually pragmatic - because the same person who gave that advice, in a similar scenario, couldn't possibly take it.
The best advice you could give isn't to forget as quickly as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is happening inside. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can truly understand what something actually means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the aftermath.
Have a honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They are life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a bad place. Let life do what it has to do so as to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move forward. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to talk with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them pour reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth effervescent to the surface.
Often we go through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have fully recovered or have moved on, but in truth there are still pieces to the puzzle that have to be put together. Maybe Maybe it is one piece left, just maybe it's just this moment where you have to sit down and get quiet one last time, or perhaps it demands more of your attention.
There's an interesting balance between moving forward and taking the time, whatever the situation speaks for, and starting to appreciate what is occurring within. I believe much of the time when a person is hurt and other people see it they attempt to tell that person to bounce themselves up as fast as possible and forget the past. This information, while intended to be beneficial, isn't actually pragmatic - because the same person who gave that advice, in a similar scenario, couldn't possibly take it.
The best advice you could give isn't to forget as quickly as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is happening inside. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can truly understand what something actually means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the aftermath.
Have a honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They are life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a bad place. Let life do what it has to do so as to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move forward. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to talk with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them pour reason into your heart.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.
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